The Mothers Who Don't Scream - Techniques for Raising Children Without Scolding and Yelling

Did your mother yell at you or hit you?

When I was a child, hitting, insulting, and yelling at children was considered "normal" parental behavior. Mothers back then didn't experience feelings of remorse, remorse, or making amends for mistakes like mothers today do after mistreating their children. In those days, they believed, "He who doesn't hit his daughter hits his knees," or "Hitting comes from paradise." That's how they learned it. If a child made a mistake, they had to be punished, and the greater the punishment, the better it was supposed to be. For example, if you hit your child, they would say, "Look, your behavior is very wrong, so much so that I'm hitting you for it, hurting you so that you won't do it again."

Even though we tearfully recall the times when our mothers or fathers hit us, scolded us, yelled at us, and humiliated us, the irony is that we can no longer remember why they did it—that is, the lesson they wanted to teach us. I'm sure you certainly feel some of this too: The lesson our parents wanted to teach us has been forgotten. All that remains are the cold memories of being hit and insulted.

This book was written for precisely this reason. So that when our children look back years from now, they can feel the warmth of a mother rather than the coldness of a slap on her cheek...

So then, come and let us all speak the intention together: We speak the intention to be a non-screaming mother...